This is part three of an ongoing series to talk about spiritual coaches, why you might want to visit one and what to look out for. Today’s post is based on 2 simple lists. Green flags and red flags. Enjoy!
Green flags for a spiritual coach
- A spiritual coach shows compassion and understanding
- They guide, offer suggestions
- They recognise when nudging is needed and when something more formidable is needed
- They push
- They are well read, or well educated
- They say no to potential clients
- They are aware of their own limitations
- They remember stuff you tell them and are able to correct the dots between experiences and answers
- They follow up sessions with emails, further information, etc
- A spiritual coach looks for feedback
- They recommend other professionals when necessary
- They care, but separate themselves from your choices and actions
Red flags for a spiritual coach
Ok, so we could probably just say the opposite of the above, but here’s a list anyway
- Pressure to act now – most spiritual coaches will offer an introductory conversation to make sure ye get on together. If not, and if there’s an “act now or never” type vibe – avoid.
- A selection process – as if most people aren’t worth their time.
- Blurred lines (even if they aren’t really) – are you required to sign up to the morals or standards of a whole community or group to work with this coach?
- They’re “cruel to be kind” -seriously, this isn’t a spiritual coach. This is a bully.
- No clear endpoint – now ok, you might not have a clear endpoint when you start the process, but if it keeps going on and on and on with no finish in sight – might be worth investigating
- The coach is unwilling to share their experience and credentials
- At the same time – leaning heavily on credentials and no experience
- They blame you for… well… anything
Takeaways
Look, one or two red flags doesn’t mean don’t work with that person. I have sent out emails saying, “hey, I have a coaching spot free, book a free call next week to see if you want to work with me”. That could be deemed as pressure to act now.
It’s intended to highlight I have a spot open up and it’s free to the first comer so to speak.
But if you have someone who’s ticking none of the green flags and all of the red flags? Take a deep look at that person and whether you want to work with them.
In the meantime, if you are interested in exploring this further drop me an email at orlagh@mybrigidsforge.com
